Taking care of yourself without forgetting yourself: loving without sacrificing yourself
Many people feel this constant need to give in order to be loved. In this article, we explore why it's so difficult to practice self-care, and how to create simple rituals to center yourself without guilt.
Why we sometimes forget ourselves to be loved
Why do we always have to take care of others to feel loved? Why this constant need to be there, to do, to give, in the hope of love in return?
I've often asked myself this question. For a long time, I believed I had to make myself indispensable to deserve love. As if caring tirelessly for others would eventually earn me their attention, their recognition, their affection.
But today, I understand that this pattern drains me more than it nourishes me. I realize that I don't have to forget myself to be loved. And maybe if you're reading this, you too feel the fatigue of always being the one people count on, but sometimes forget to look at them with tenderness.
The consequences of emotional exhaustion
We sometimes have this silent belief:
- If I give enough, I will be loved.
- If I step back a little, I will be accepted.
- If I hold out for everyone, then I will become essential.
But this model wears us down. It distances us from ourselves. And worse, it ends up seeming normal to others.
When caring becomes an invisible habit, When love becomes a silent expectation, Then we no longer receive it as we hope. And we feel alone, despite all the gestures given.
Learn to reconnect with yourself, without guilt
Today, I choose to do things differently. I choose to take care of myself, without guilt. Not to turn myself away from others, but to stop losing myself along the way.
It can start with simple actions:
- An infusion shared with silence.
- A few lines in a notebook, without filter.
- A warm pillow on the back of my neck, to release what I'm carrying.
- A moment without justification, just because I need it.
Create rituals to take care of yourself every day
FYNLORA is also this reminder. That self-care is not a luxury, nor a whim. It's a gentle and powerful way to rediscover yourself and to love others without erasing yourself.
1 comment
Je suis d’accord avec ce post. En vrai, on court toujours pour avoir l’approbation des autres et on s’oublie trop. Perso je cours toujours pour les enfants, mon mari, mais personne ne court pour moi. Bien au contraire. Ce post me rappelle que je dois sérieusement penser à moi car personne ne le fera pour moi. Merci pour votre sincérité je le prends comme un soutien.